What Guys Want

Being happily married for 24 years and the mother of three sons, ranging in age from 16, 21 and 30, I hear a lot of talk and opinions from them and from their friends. I notice which girls they date and which ones stick around longer than others.

I married the first time when I was just 18, it lasted for five long years, and so when I was single it was one of the best times of my life. I dated some truly wonderful men that I still have fond memories of. We had good foundations in friendship, that would have lasted a lifetime, if our current spouses hadn't objected so strongly. lol

• The main thing I've seen and heard men say, is that the one thing they do NOT want, is a needy, clingy woman. They say they don't want a woman that demands too much of their time.
• They want a woman that has a life and career or hobbies of her own, in other words, an independent woman. They say if she has things that keep her busy, then they will still have time for guy things, without her whining. You know, guy things. Like playing video games, watching sports, farting loudly and getting to laugh about it instead of apologizing.
• I have found out that perfect looks in a woman come in second to self-confidence. They really want a self confident woman. For one thing, they feel better about themselves if they are chosen by a woman that thinks highly of herself. They like a woman that won't (because she doesn't need to) take their crap.
• Another thing I've noticed is that the more they find a female like the ones I've described above, the more time they find they want and need to spend with her.
• Most men say they want a woman with a good basic understanding and appreciation of sports.
• And they want to be able to have an intelligent conversation, without answering questions about if a person's butt looks too big, or if he thinks another girl is hot. (Of course he does)

It really all comes back to "The Hunt." Biologically, men are built to want to be the ones to do the chasing. The harder something is to catch, the more time they have to spend chasing it, the sweeter the meat - the catch.

They want a woman that sets herself a little above the rest. Like for instance their prized truck or car. Buying used is okay, but not worn out. I KNOW that sounds terrible. But I'm just passing along what I hear - when they don't know I'm listening. I wish more men would eaves-drop. Maybe then they would understand more of what WE want. lol

Stay tuned for the next HUB: WHAT WOMEN WANT!

Drive Safely,

KT