Let's Give Each Other a Break
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Hello Friend
Here's a different view from me. Lately it has hit home with me, that there is so much going on in life, that we never really know what makes people behave the way they do. Sometimes it feels like we are being unnecessarily attacked by someone that reads one of our hubs, or even in other situations. But the old saying, "It's not you, it's me" Could actually be the cause of it.
My sister had to have brain surgery two days ago. It has been a very stressful time leading up to the surgery, making me more sensitive than usual. Now the surgery is over with, but she is having complications. So now I'm more on edge than ever.
It has made me stop and think that we never know what is going on in someones life. People take out their frustrations in many different ways. Maybe there is someone at work that you don't know very well, but the two of you have always been very cordial to each other. Then one day, you smile and say hi as you pass each other, and all you get back is an absent stare and maybe a grunt. You would probably what you had done wrong to make that person upset with you, or to suddenly not like to you very much. In actuality, maybe - and more likely - it doesn't even have anything to do with you at all.
Maybe they have a friend or family member in trouble. Maybe they found out that they have a medical or financial problem, or some other personal problem. Sometimes when someone gets on here and responds negatively or strongly to something we've said, they are really trying to blow off some steam.
The truth is, that with all of the foreclosures, all of the lay offs and political unrest, not to mention family and medical problems, we never know what is going on in someones life that may make them react differently than they usually would. Maybe we should turn the other cheek more often.
When I think about if even deeper, we never know what makes a person the person they are today. If they seem overbearing, or like a braggart, or a know-it-all, maybe they had something in their past that made them develop that behavior. People do a lot to cover up old insecurities.
I'm so worried, nervous and upset right now, that it has made me even more empathetic than usual. I always want to make the world a better place, but I guess right now I just want to be more gentle about it. I want to reach out and soothe people in the hopes that no one else feels as upset and helpless as I do right now.
So, I'm just asking for us to all stop and think about the fact that we really don't know what causes people to act or react as they sometimes do. Let's give each other a break.
All the Best,
KT
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Sorry to hear about your sister's plight and your vexation, KT. I also apologize for my behavior if it offended you in any way—especially if I'm the "know-it-all" in your comments above.
I wish you and your family every blessing the Universe can bestow and I hope your sister pulls through with a complete recovery.
I was actually referring to the guy that was so mean after my last post.
Some people just like to debate, and I think that's where you come in. From what tmwnp said, I guess yall are still at it?
KT,
You can see him in action on my blog "the first non political, political rant" or whatever you call it. Apparently he doesn't like my style. He's very nice to you. It started on your hub about Perry. I dunno .. My inconsistencies and spelling bug him. If I were consistent, and knew how to spell, nobody would listen to me. Shoot.
jim
KT, I hear you and I can relate....I think you make an extremely good point that we should always remind ourselves about.
Praying for your sister, even as I post this....
Chris
All prayers are Sincerely appreciated. I think I'm going to close down my computer for the day, and concentrate on my prayers too.
I hope your sister is now better, really I do. You express your self very clearly. Hope all the best for you and your sister.
@icciev,
Thank you so much! She is doing much better. Which means that I am starting to, also. I was so upset that I couldn't even write for weeks. I just wasn't expecting it to go so badly. She is one of my favorite people in this world, and always has been.
@ KT,
good news, really happy for you and your sister. we are all awaiting for your next nice hub to be published.. So keep up the good work.
You are wise beyond your years, most people don't find the true meaning of life and compassion until something terrible happens in their life, and even then it still fails to dawn on them. Compassion and understanding is all that matters, people are all that matter. If I could time travel I used to think I would go into the future to see all the marvelous advancements, but now I know I would definitely go back to my early years and reverse so many things I said and did, I would treat all the people in my past with the utmost compassion and understanding, for I miss them all. If I had been different, I would still be friends with them today, and I'm so sorry....
@carcro, I don't know about the "Beyond my years" part, lol. I'm not a youngster anymore. But thanks so much for taking the time to comment. I finally feel like I'm getting back to myself. Worry can really make a person sick.
Hi, KT! WOW what a hub! Deep and yet so within my grasp. LOVED every word. I admire your talent so much that I voted up and away. I am now, with your permission, a fan and a follower. Sincerely, Kenneth Avery, from a rural town, Hamilton, in northwest Alabama, that looks like the town, Mayberry on the Andy Griffith Show. Peace to you, KT! (((kenneth)))
Kenneth,
So Happy you found me and I found you! I just Love your attitude, just what I need now days. I look forward to following you and reading as many of your hubs as time allows. I'll get to them all, I promise.
~ KT
12:41 p.m., CST, Oct. 24
KT . . .WOW, what a comment. That was equivalent to 100,000 volts of electricity running through my body. THANK YOU, so much. I am the one who is GLAD to have found YOU, such a talented, creative writer. You could easily show me some ways that I can be as good as you...not better, that is impossible. Just consider helping me for I am a newbie. And I personally, and Sincerely, Wish for YOU MY BEST, (I do have some connections with God, so be quiet), and THANKS For reading my hubs. That warm gesture of yours, WILL NOT go unnoticed or overlooked. I promise you. Take care and let me hear from you. I am at home 24/7 365....respectfully, Kenneth
Some time has gone by. I hope your sister is healing nicely. I worked with emotionally disturbed adolescents for several years. I came to the same conclusion that you did about behavior. Most of them had an organic problem along with environmental issues. It changed my way of looking at the world. It hit me one day . . . we live in a neurotic society.
HI WD 111, good to see you here.
I'm thinking about writing my next book and calling it "Neurotic - like Me" I think everyone is a bit neurotic in one way or another, don't you?
And thank you, my sister is doing a lot better!
Basically, a neurosis is a disorder where the sufferer expends an inordinate amount of energy to relieve an "invisible problem" that is rooted in the subconscious. No telling what caused it, maybe someone kicked their dog when they were little. In real-time, they find an "object of displacement" (a mistaken perpetrator of the irritation) like a spouse, political figure, or holders of a certain viewpoint to direct this energy towards. All of this energy serves to exasperate the unresolved issue.
Am I neurotic? I am writing on Hub Pages in hopes of getting somewhere.
KT, I knew it. Thanks to my secret powers, that no one one in the CIA or FBI knows about, I knew that you were an author of books. Great! Bravo! You are made for being an author, KT! You are sensitive, but firm enough to stand for what YOU believe. YOU are strong, but meek enough to listen to those (like me) who are of a lower IQ. I admire your work, KT. And I am very HONORED to know you. But always KNOW THIS: Whether you hear from me or not, either me or my "friends," who have powers stronger than I, will always have your back. Count on it. KENNETH
WD C 111,
I guess I should have looked up the definition. I always thought neurotic just meant kind of quirky. While I definitely had a difficult childhood, I almost always see both sides of a situation, so I have a hard time directly placing blame on anyone - unless they are out and out mean, selfish or wicked. But I am most certainly quirky. lol
kenneth avery,
You make me blush, but smile at the same time. I should tell you that so far my books have been in the thriller genre. People that know me well, are surprised at the amount of meanness and violence I can write about, but the worse the bad guys are, the more fun I have taking them down.
In my first book, you don't know who the bad guy is until the end.
In the second, you know who he is through most of the book, but I do things like have him going through a swamp in Louisiana and getting attacked by all kinds bugs and biting and stinging things. He is really a vile person, so I don't take any pity on him.
As far as having my back, that's the sweetest thing you can say to a person like me. Thank you very much!
KT . . .speaking only as a simple man with a simple mind...YOU ARE ALWAYS WELCOME. I would consider it a great honor if you would check your messages. KENNETH
Dear KT,
I am putting you and your sister in my prayer list. I hope by now your sister is recuperating much better than expected because people are praying for her. I also hope that you remain strong in your faith and body and mind to do whatever you have to do everyday, specially tending to the needs of all you love, like your sister.
Your writing is truly awesome because I along with your readers are able to empathize with you. Please, do keep writing and wishing you more successes in your hubs.
It's me,
Monette
Monette, you write great comments and fan mail. I read yours out loud to my husband and kids. It's SO nice to be appreciated! :D
~ KT
KT,
Just checking in girl! I'm not getting any notices of new stuff from you. I'm slowing down too. I just wrote a poem called "Making The Cut" It's very dark which isn't my m.o. but it is what it is. I've got a thing I want to write about, but haven't felt the time is quite right for some reason. Anyway, just wanted to say howdy and I hope all is super good on your end my friend!
jim
Hey Jim! I know I need to write a new one. I've had a couple of ideas for another one, then either forget it or find something else like it, that someone already covered. I'm trying to write something positive and not bitchy. lol
TheManWithNoPants Level 7 Commenter 9 months ago
KT,
God bless you girl. You and your sis will be in my prayers I promise.
Such a good reminder at such a critical time. I just got through spanking the Wizz for stalking me with his dictionary. (laughing) Wish I'd read this first. I might have been more gentle. I just can't get comfortable with folks who try to drownd out something positive with their negativity.
You are are special kiddo!
jim